I have twin daughters who are both on the spectrum. One of our daughters and her boyfriend Jeffrey are all high functioning. Jeffrey has speech difficulties and is hard to understand sometimes, but yet our daughter understands him perfectly fine. Does not need any interpretation from his mom.
The first time Jeffrey met our daughter was in 6th grade. They saw each other all the time at school. It took him though till their 8th grade graduation to get up enough courage to have his mom come to me after the ceremony. His mom said that she feel in love with our twin girls when Mikayla’s sister was crying because she didn’t want to leave her favorite teacher and Mikayla being mother hen, said to me in a loud voice, “mom she’s crying”. So, his mom approached me and told me her son was in love with Mikayla. We had talked at the reception and while we were talking he took our daughters hand and they began to dance to the music. All the teachers, aids and other parents were saying awwww. Then he had her sit and he brought her drink and snacks. We exchanged phone numbers and that night he FaceTime her and all 4 of us talked. This was the start of a forever love story. Their first date was on July 16th. They went bowling and had lunch. He brought her flowers and a framed picture that they had taken by his mom when she had met Mikayla for the first time.
It’s been 8 months now and even though they are in different high schools, we get them together at least once or twice a week and they FaceTime each other everyday, 3 or 4 times a day after school and 5 to 10 times on non school days. There conversations usually last no more than a minute or two but they always say love and miss you to each other and blow each other kisses. There love for each other just gets stronger everyday. He will tell his family many times a day how much he loves her and she does the same to us. It’s a pure kind of love. No teenage drama. Their love is getting stronger everyday. Jeffrey is always a perfect gentleman and he treats her like a Princess. They only kiss on the cheek and they hug and hold hands at times but are also perfectly content to just sit by each other and not touch. They are really starting to read each other’s minds and feelings and they just know what the other is thinking and feeling. When she gets upset, he calms her down. It’s truly a real love story and they are proof that loves has no boundaries and they are not going to let Autism stand in their way of having a relationship. They have big plans for the future that includes marriage and a family when our daughter turns 20.
Written By: Kim Conley
Jeffrey started talking about Mikayla every day as soon as 8th grade started. He was instantly in love and spent all his time talking about her and drawing pictures of them together. For a YEAR he did this before we actually met.
I was able to meet her briefly before the graduation day, and she was so happy to meet me – I could tell she liked Jeffrey. I was sooo worried that she wouldn’t like Jeffrey back, and honestly, I was terrified to meet her mom….”hey, so my kid has a HUGE crush on your daughter and draws pictures of her daily” isn’t exactly an easy way to start a conversation.
But then the big day came – graduation. As soon as the ceremony was over, he put a vice grip hold on my hand and walked me over to Kim, Mikayla’s mother, and she and I both felt a little awkward at first but when we watched them dance and interact – we were both blown away.
It’s kismet. They communicate without speaking even. She takes care of him – tells him to slow down when he’s eating too fast. He calms her down when she’s afraid. And you’ve never seen two kids more innocently, sweetly in love and just happy to be around one another.
I have no doubt in my mind these two were meant to be, and will be little old people sitting on their porch one day. They just fit – and as a mother of a special needs child, my MAIN goal has always been for him to be happy. That’s it. Just happy. And this is true happiness.
Written By: Kristin Parcells
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